There are two types of people in this world:
Those who say, “Don’t blame yourself. There was nothing you could have done differently about X,” and those who say, “You idiot! Of course X would happen.”
I tend to often wonder about X, and in the process, divert to the quodlibet of those two types of people; Those who think you are not blame yourself for X, and those who attitudinize themselves to be too wise to even invest their emotions into X.
What do these two types of personalities mean?
The Story Solution: 23 Actions All Great Heroes Must Take by Eric Edson is a instructional screenplay guide on how to successfully put together an award winning script that is worth your time and effort – a book, that for me, makes a real difference in the pessimistic nature of reality. In it, Edson explains how in order to create a dynamic hero (or character in general) you create a shield. Yes, every person in every good movie has a shield just like real life. Essentially, the steps are as follows: Step 1 – Create a character with a past and personality. Step 2 – Develop an end goal that he or she needs. Step 3 – Create THE reason that stops him or her from accomplishing that goal. I believe that this is an underlying motif that dominates many facets of our lives and in the end will hopefully lead me to “experience a sense of completion as … [I] lay down [my] shield of emotional self-protection and achieve emotional freedom, allowing [me] to connect with others again on a personal level; a life process we all go through, when healing old wounds.” That all of us have an end goal that defines us, but there will always be that shield, stepping in our way, that adds inner conflict to every action we take.
More often than not, we ask ourselves what our purpose is in life when really the question that should be asked is how to pierce that shield.
But this shield does define whether or not you side with the, “Don’t blame yourself. There was nothing you could have done differently about X,” or the, “You idiot! Of course X would happen,” response.
I could ramble about what types of shields develop those types of responses but I don’t think it is worth anyones’ time to hear my naive interpretations when I’ve never picked up a psychology book on the subject. These interpretations would merely be fueled by the simple things I’ve picked up via my habit to read into things. It wouldn’t do you nor this blog justice, so I’ll skip ahead.
There are three types of people in this world:
Those who say, “Don’t blame yourself. There was nothing you could have done differently about X,” those who say, “You idiot! Of course X would happen,” and lastly, those who say, “X created your shield and you should be grateful for that. Now, just like wine, your character becomes better defined through time thus you blossom to what you are now. Embrace the pains. Become a masochist if you need to! For when you reach Y, you shall find inner peace and become Z.”